Your preconception that because an element of my open relationship didn’t work, that the problem was OBVIOUSLY my open relationship.
Please, tell me more about how your monogamous relationships have all been perfect and lasted forever.
“I need you” is kinda tricky. What does that mean? That without you my life is not complete? That without you I’m not happy? That if you leave you’ll be responsible for my misfortune? That’s a lot of weight to put on someone’s shoulder, don’t you think?
On the other hand, if you’re not someone else’s center of the universe, what do you understand? That this someone doesn’t really care for you right? That it’s not worth working on the relationship because if you leave, they’ll get over it? Ego hurting much?
The former is not healthy, and the latter is selfish.
It’s not because my life was already complete and I was already happy before meeting you that you’re not wanted as hell… that you’re not important to me… that it won’t hurt as fuck if you leave… I just can’t put the weight of my happiness on your shoulders. Although, you do make me happier <3